Culture must read: Misconceptions Regarding China — Life Behind The Wall

After a heated discussion on Facebook about comparing China to North Korea… I realized that many people are very confused about China, it’s culture and laws. So, I thought I should write a blog to clarify some things. Now mind you, China still has a long way to go when it comes to some […]

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The Stand Up Stand Off 2

 

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1. Girl been crushing on and flirting with guy for a few weeks.

 

Guys flirts back, shows interests calls her bae and 

ask her coworker to find out if she would date hispanic guys.

Girl says yes and gives guy her number

Guy never call or text but continues to flirt with girl

2months later….

Guys ask girl to hang out.

Suprised he asked but she says no because she has to work.

Excited to finally see him outside of work she switches her schedule and same day excitedly tells him yes she can go.

 

He says Ok and that he will text the details to her but he is pretty

 sure it will be on xyz date around xyz time.

2 days passed and the day and time comes around, girl gets no call or text nor does she have his number to call him.

Girl goes to sleep confused, hurt and overthinking about what could and has happen

She sees guys at work and for the next two days he says absolutely nothing. Doesn’t try to get her attention or call or text either.



 2.  Now she is heated, confused, hurt af and borderline tears but she calmly pulls guy to the side and asks him to explain what happens.

 

Guy says it was an early night. He got drunk and went to sleep so plans were cancelled and no one went out.

Girl asks guy why he didnt say that her earlier.

Guys blames girl says she was ignoring him and avoidi

 

ng him…. sure it will be on a certain day around a certain time.

2 days pass and the day and time around. Girl gets no call or text nor does she have his 

PAUSE

So let me get this right. You stand someone up and then expect them to hunt you down for an explantion. Even if that person was ignoring you in person, you didnt try to call or text outside of work either? Hmmmm Ok lets continue on.

Later that night guy sends this text:

 

 

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Girl responds:

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How would you act the next time you see the guy?

Would the work relationship change and in what ways?

Do you think that ended well?

 

 

Well, no it didn’t  #Part3 behind the scenes

The Stand up Stand Off Part 1

1. Girl been crushing on and flirting with guy for a few weeks.

Guys flirts back, shows interests calls her bae and ask her coworker to find out if she would date hispanics guys.

Girl says yes and gives guy her number

Guy never call or text but continues to flirt with girl

2months later….

Guys ask girl to hang out.

Suprised he asked but she says no because she has to work.

Excited to finally see him outside of work she switches her schedule and same day excitedly tells him yes she can go.

He says ok and that he will text the details but pretty sure it will be on a certain day around a certain time.

2 days pass and the day and time around. Girl gets no call or text nor does she have his number.

Girl goes to sleep confused, hurt and overthinking about what could and has happen

She sees guys at work and for the next two days he says absolutely nothing.l[o  Doesnt try to get her attention or call or text either.

What should she do?  What would you do?


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Let’s Network!

IMG_20170508_191812_699Hey there I’m Golden the dancing massage therapist with a passion for all things creative and I want connect with you!

I’m a Massage therapist, aromatherapy enthusiast and natural body care formulator specializing in sports massage, swedish/relaxation, aromatherapy, hot stones, reflexology, lymphatic drainage and deep tissue techniques for dancers. I also formulate aromatherapeutic bath and body care products such as salts/soaks, scrubs, oils, bath bombs, shower tablets, etc customized for individual and business needs.

I’m a freelance writer and blogger with focus and interests on natural handmade beauty and product reviews, articles and D.I.Y recipes, informative massage and wellness articles, interracial dating posts and discussions and all things urban dance related!

Currently: learning ASL and Korean, looking forward to my thirties, contemplating podcasting, wanting to dance with confidence, serve the way Jesus wants me to and making my entrepreneurial dreams soar while maintaining a certain level of fitness. Want to help? Lets network!

Entrepreneurship is the ultimate goal, check out my brands:

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If you want to connect with me and/or interested in services, I can be reached at lroland813@gmail.com. I look forward to working with individuals that values honesty, integrity, genuine connections and driven by passion in all that they do.  I will NOT work with people with humility, superiority and compassion issues. Seriously man, Fuck your bad racism and your bad vibes too.

With the brightest of sunrays, 

Golden

My Colored Heart

“Give me something to believe in because I don’t believe in you (bwam) anymore” – Maroon 5 Makes me wonder

If you had been following my escapades then you know it’s been pretty non-existent lol. I haven’t blogged in a while. I took a huge L my birthday weekend in San Jose back in August and been taking little L’s in the dating department since then. I’ve even fucked up and contacted HIM (Chenxiao) twice. Nothing scandalous. Just a, “hey-how-are-things?” kinda text, only to realize we still think about each other. ALOT . But I need NOT to. I needed something to keep my heart from feeling red (angry), blue (sad) and black (apathy/heartless) because lately I’ve been fed up with Asian men.

A little louder, “Give me something to believe in because I don’t believe in you (bwam) anymore”

I had just about given up; on Asian men, the BW/AM community and blogging for the “Honey Love” until two months ago when I happened to be instragramming and found this.

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Colored Hearts is a romantic drama about a young interracial couple’s struggle to stay together while facing the challenges of stereotypes and opposition from family and friends.  Written and directed by Robin Johnson (co-director; Somlit Inthalangsy) , who also stars as the leading lady with co-star Kane Lieu as the leading male, Colored Hearts premiered at the Los Angeles Asian Pacific Film Festival this past weekend.

Check out the trailer

Had I found out about this sooner I definitely would’ve tried to make my way on set even if I had to stand outside and give massages to cast and crew just to show my appreciation. But I didn’t,  so I missed production, post production and even the premiere but I did NOT miss the screening Monday so before I get into that, can we talk about the dopeness of all of this right now?

Yes, yes ya’ll this is A Black woman and Asian male as the the main characters film; Not friends of the main characters, not extras, not crime fighting sidekicks but the main characters AND as love interests. Written by a black woman with a personal experience that I could definitely relate to from the past 3-4 years of my life #nextblogpost  #sneakpeak)  ⇓    ⇓    ⇓    ⇓    ⇓    ⇓    ⇓    ⇓

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lol Let’s continue. The fact it premiered at an Asian Film Festival, says alot. Bringing awareness and opening conversations about black women and interracial dating not just within the black community (which is another dissertation in itself) but to bring that conversation and how it is dealt with and viewed in other communities as well?! Yes! Can you hear the tears welling up in my eyes?

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This is what I needed to see.  So here I am Monday evening:

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In the back of my Uber Roberto fucking up and got on the wrong freeway smh but I wont let it fuck up my night. There is someplace I need to be tonight. There is something I have to see so Im going. Im scared but Im going. Im nervous but Im going. Im solo but Im going. #ambw #thegreatcompany #coloredhearts blogging will commence soon

At the ‘We Own the 8th’s’ screening  I sat in the back because I know me, I’m emo with a smart ass mouth. I will cry and get mad at the truth at the same time. I was here to erase the hate forming in my heart, to replace it with only one color, Gold. And in less than 10 minutes of viewing Colored Hearts my heart wounds were opening up again yet rejoicing. How great it felt to see my story (or one like it rather) on a screen bigger than my blog. It was more than just  me with my homegirls sharing our experiences over KBBQ. It became more than just a BW/AM thing. It was the years of pain, stereotypes, rejections, mental anguish, comments and judgements from Asian parents, from black men and women, friends, families and strangers being exposed and expressed without me having to say a damn word. The accuracy was on point for real, like emphasis being put on the word “black” before every mention of my being. Things I’m sure most women in the AMBW groups wanted to say but were too afraid to say outside of their clique. I needed this film for my reality sake, except for me, my guy wasn’t engaged, he was married and not even a month after my ultimatum, and it was me on the other side of the door showing up to declare my love. It didn’t open to welcome my love either. Instead I was given the weakest comfort ever via text,capture_2016-08-18-09-07-53.png.pngMy intention was to watch the film and then head home but I stayed and glad that I did. I stayed to the very end and in the end, I was refreshed, inspired and ready to roll up my sleeves and give BW/AM another chance. People trust me when I say,  Colored Hearts is for you.


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This is for you.

Because Brandy’s Cinderella wasn’t enough.

 

 

 

 

 


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For those Romeo Must Die, Jet Li and Aaliyah  fans that wanted more than that weak ass hug at the end.

This is for you.

 

 

 

 


For those Ninja Assassin lovers like myself (it’s my absolute favorite movie) that get a lil heated when Raizo teases,

“Oh Mika, Mika” and needed them to fall in love. 

This is for you.


For those “Rocketeers ” (that’s what I call myself lol)  that shed a tear every time you hear FarEastMovement’s Rockeeter  and plays the video in your head.

This is for you.

This is for you.

This is the alternative ending you wanted. The one you’ve been asking for

Like, Share and support Colored Hearts.

*And I sincerely pray to all the Chenxiao’s of the world that when you watch this film you’ll feel empowered, fearless and inspired. I hope that you see that you are not alone. I wish that you will become courageous enough to endure for your love and try to understand how the woman feels as well. Trust me, if you are genuine and sincere and willing to fight for her, she will move mountains, wrestle lions and jump out of planes for you. Well atleast I would. I damn near did it for 3 years. Fight. Please. Fight for all the colors of your heart.

With my deepest appreciation and sunrays, 

Golden

*Thank you Robin and everyone that had even a pinky finger in bringing this vision to life.